Has the spark in your bedroom dimmed, becoming a sore spot in your relationship? Intimacy and sexual satisfaction are crucial for happiness and stability, so addressing these issues could be key to rekindling your connection. 

But don’t sweat it – every couple hits a lull, especially in a long-term relationship. To help you reignite that passion, we’ve gathered insightful books filled with “aha” moments and tools to bring back the heat. 

Ready to turn those cozy nights into something sizzling? Let’s dive into eight must-reads from sex therapists and coaches to get your love life back on track.

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

This is an essential read and tops our list.

A New York Times bestseller and number one pick from our favorite sex education expert Carlie Palmer (aka The Christian Sex Educator), Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski is the ultimate guide to understanding your body; it’s like the instruction manual you never got.

Come As You Are can help you uncover how your unique biology, personal experiences, and even stress levels shape your sex life. You'll feel like a goddess (which you are), armed with the knowledge to make pleasure your middle name. 

You may also:

• Gain a deeper insight into the science behind female sexuality. 
• Recognize that context plays a crucial role in sexual desire for women
• Realize there are different types of desire, such as spontaneous and responsive, and what each type needs.

You can find Come As You Are here.

PROTIP: Opt for the book version of Come As You Are to take notes and revisit key sections. The accompanying workbook is also a fantastic resource for even more personal growth and practical application.

Replenish by Tammy Hill 

Next is a book from Tammy Hill – one of our most cherished Christian marriage/family therapists and college professors. Replenish is your go-to guide for nurturing your mind, body, and spirit so you’re ready to give (and receive) love at your fullest. 

This book can help readers: 

• Shed sexual shame
• Change false beliefs about their sexuality 
• Discover their sexual desires
• And implement helpful, positive behaviors for a better intimate relationship

Replenish is all about finding balance and reconnecting with your own desires, which is the perfect foundation for amazing sex. Sometimes, all you need is a little self-care to bring your best self into the bedroom.

You can find Replenish here.

PROTIP: For even more incredible insight from Tammy, tune in to her weekly podcast “Live Your Why”. You can also visit her website for retreat info and additional free resources.

Better Sex Through Mindfulness by Dr. Lori Brotto 

Another recommendation by Carlie Palmer, Better Sex Through Mindfulness by acclaimed psychologist and sex researcher, Dr. Lori Brotto, teaches you how to slow down and truly focus during lovemaking.

If you’ve ever found your mind wandering during intimate moments, Better Sex Through Mindfulness shows you how to be present, helping you tune into your body and your partner like never before with practical tips. Think of it as a meditation practice – only a whole lot sexier. 

With Dr. Brotto’s tips, you’ll likely find yourself immersed in every touch, every kiss, and every sensual sensation. Learn how to close the dozens of open tabs in your mind and achieve total relaxation, letting you fully enjoy and connect with your partner.

You can purchase Better Sex Through Mindfulness here.

PROTIP: Check out the workbook that goes along with Better Sex Through Mindfulness for extra exercises to enhance your intimacy even further.

Satisfaction Guaranteed by Bat Sheva Marcus

Renowned sex therapist, Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, distills decades of experience into Satisfaction Guaranteed, a comprehensive guide featuring a unique sex points assessment. 

This evaluation can help readers identify the specific root causes of sexual dysfunction by scoring in four key areas: 

1. Pain 
2. Libido
3. Arousal
4. Orgasm

 A low score highlights where to focus your efforts for improvement.

If you're ready to elevate your sex life, Satisfaction Guaranteed provides the tools you and your partner need for consistent satisfaction. Covering hormones, sexual fantasies, toys, and true intimacy, this book will make you a bedroom expert. Get ready to prioritize your pleasure.

Grab Satisfaction Guaranteed here.

PROTIP: Reading Satisfaction Guaranteed withyour partner can help create mutual understanding and collaboration in overcoming sexual challenges.

Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Wray Gregorie 

If you’ve heard of The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex, you’re already familiar with Sheila Wray Gregoire's work. 

For those who’ve ever felt the strain of unrealistic bedroom expectations, Sheila’s latest book, The Great Sex Rescue, is the refreshing change you may need. In it, she dispels myths and guides you toward a sex life grounded in mutual respect, love, and genuine connection. 

The Great Sex Rescue is about ditching the shame and embracing a healthier, more fulfilling experience for both partners. Drawing on an extensive survey of over 22,000 women from a Christian perspective, Sheila tackles the harmful purity messages about sex and guides you on how to reshape these beliefs using scripture and biblical insights.

To get your copy of The Great Sex Rescue, visit here.

PROTIP: Don’t skip on the challenges at the end of each chapter – that’s where the real transformation happens for the majority of readers.

She Comes First by Ian Kerner 

If there’s one book that’ll have you rethinking what foreplay is, it’s She Comes First. 

Highly recommended by our friend Amanda Louder (Christian sex coach and educator), this book is a must-have gift for every bride, groom, or couple.

Ian Kerner dives into the art of pleasing your partner, focusing on the importance of female pleasure. This book focuses on putting her needs front and center, ensuring she’s fully satisfied. 

She Comes First is the quintessential guide to:

• Understanding oral sex for females.
• The best techniques and detailed instructions on how to give it.
• Why prioritizing female pleasure first can increase pleasure for both partners.

To purchase She Comes First, click here.

PROTIP: She Comes First is a game-changer that may make male partners more attentive and confident lovers.

Sex Talks by Vanessa and Xander Marin

Have you ever felt like there’s an invisible wall between you and your partner when it comes to sex? Sex Talks, by Vanessa and Xander Marin, is here to knock that wall down. 

Vanessa and Xander take you through five essential conversations that can transform your love life:

1. Acknowledgment – “Yes, we have sex.” 
2. Connection – “What do we both need to feel connected?” 
3. Desire – “What do we each need to feel desire?”
4. Pleasure – “How do each of us feel pleasure during sex?”
5. Exploration – “What new things would we like to explore?”

Whether it’s setting boundaries, sharing fantasies, or just learning how to ask for what you want, this book can help you learn to speak up and get the bedroom of your dreams.

To snag your copy of Sex Talks, visit here.

PROTIP: Visit Vanessa and Xander’s website to check out their online courses and podcast, Pillow Talks.

Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch

Finally, we have Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch, widely regarded as one of the best books for keeping the spark alive long after the honeymoon phase. The respected Christian sex therapist, Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, draws heavily from Schnarch's teachings.

The acclaimed and late sex psychologist, David, examines the dynamics of long-term relationships, offering insights on maintaining passion and intimacy over time. His focus includes the concept of differentiation and the idea that conflict is essential for showing up authentically in a healthy relationship.

Passionate Marriage is full of practical advice and exercises to help you and your partner stay connected, both in and out of the bedroom. Exercises like:

• Eyes open sex
• Hugging till relaxed
• Feeling while touching

Passionate Marriage is considered Schnarch’s masterpiece because it goes beyond just sex – it’s about nurturing deep intimacy throughout your relationship.

To buy Passionate Marriage, check out here.

PROTIP: Heads up – Passionate Marriage contains some strong language, so keep that in mind if it's a concern for you.

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