“Hot Girl Summer” gets talked about like it’s a look, but really, it’s a mindset.

It’s not about having the perfect wardrobe, routine, or body – it’s about giving yourself permission to feel confident, desirable, playful, and worthy of good things exactly as you are. It’s choosing to romanticize your life, show up for yourself in small ways, and stop waiting for some future version of yourself to start feeling good.

When it comes to embracing that mindset, we’re taking cues from our resident glow-up girlie, Lindsey Harper, whose approach to confidence is refreshingly simple: it’s the small things that shape how you feel day to day.

As Lindsey puts it, “Embracing your inner hot girl doesn’t come from changing how you look. It comes from treating yourself like you’re already worthy of feeling confident and desired.”

And that’s really the shift – Hot Girl energy isn’t something you earn later. It’s something you start practicing now. From the way you care for yourself, to the confidence boost that comes from slipping into a beautiful, classy lingerie set just because it makes you feel good, those small choices add up.

Ready to embrace your inner Hot Girl? Here are Lindsey’s six favorite habits for feeling more confident, joyful, and hot this summer (or anytime).

Tip #1: Start Talking to Yourself Like Someone You Actually Love 

First things first: Hot Girl energy begins in your head. If your inner dialogue is constantly throwing shade at yourself, it's going to be really hard to feel confident, playful, or fully show up as your best self.  As Lindsey puts it, “Small shifts in how you think about yourself can completely change how you show up.” And the best part? It starts with the little things. 

Instead of concentrating on what you want to "fix," try shifting your attention to:

• What you're already doing well
• What makes you feel strong, feminine, confident, or just a little bit that girl
• What you appreciate about yourself and your body today
• How you can speak to yourself with more kindness and encouragement
• Giving yourself credit for the things you're doing well instead of focusing only on what still needs improvement 

The goal isn't to become a different person – it's to start treating yourself like someone worth rooting for.

If you want to go a little deeper with this mindset shift, Beauty Redefined is a great resource for learning how to develop a more supportive and grounded relationship with yourself.

And sometimes, that shows up in the simplest way – like what you choose to wear for yourself. 

Lindsey’s Mentionables Lingerie Pick (Soft Confidence Set): Scalloped Embroidered Satin Cami Top and Shorts Set in Rose Pink – soft, feminine, and the kind of set that feels good without you even having to think about it.

Tip #2: Stop Saving the Pretty Things for Later 

One of the simplest ways to embrace your inner Hot Girl is to stop saving beautiful things for later. Wear the cute outfit. Use the fancy lotion. Light the candle. The point is simple: today is already worth showing up for. 

Lingerie fits right into that mindset. Not as something reserved for a “special occasion,” but as something you choose for yourself in the present moment – because it makes you feel good now, not later. 

Lindsey often talks about how confidence grows when you start treating everyday moments as worth showing up for – not just the "special" ones. For her, classy lingerie became part of that shift: something she wears for herself, not for a future version of her life.

Remember: confidence is personal. For some women, that's a matching lace set. For others, it's satin pajamas, a favorite dress, a signature scent, or taking an extra few minutes to get ready in the morning. The goal isn't to look a certain way – it's to find the things that help you feel most like yourself. 

That might look like:

• Wearing a matching set under your everyday clothes
• Choosing pieces that feel comfortable and beautiful
• Slipping into lingerie at home just because it changes your mood

And when you start treating lingerie as something personal (not performative), it naturally becomes part of your everyday self-confidence ritual, not something reserved for someone else's approval.

Lindsey’s Mentionables Lingerie Pick (Everyday Ease Set): Satin and Gingham Bow Bralette and Satin and Gingham High-Waist Crotchless Panty in Peach – playful, light, and easy, this set is about feeling pretty in daily life.

Tip #3: Romanticize Your Everyday Routine

One of the easiest ways to embrace your inner Hot Girl is to stop waiting for life to feel special and start making it feel special. Confidence has a funny way of growing when your daily routine feels a little more intentional.

Lindsey believes, "Feeling like your best self starts with the small things you repeat every day." Some of the best confidence boosts come from the moments you create for yourself before anyone else sees them. Those little rituals send a powerful message: you're worth showing up for. 

Simple routines can include:

• Lighting a candle while getting ready
• Wearing soft, beautiful sleepwear instead of old pajamas
• Playing your favorite music while doing skincare or makeup
• Choosing small details that make you feel put together
• Indulging in a piece of dark chocolate before bed

Lindsey’s Mentionables Lingerie Pick (Dreamy Ritual Set): Satin and Diamond Mesh Robe, Eyelash Lace Underwire Bralette, and Strappy Diamond Mesh Thong Panty in Sky Blue – a full ritual set designed for softness, comfort, and elevated everyday moments.

Tip #4: Move Your Body in Ways That Feel Good, Not Punishing

Hot Girl energy isn’t just something you think – it’s something you feel in your body. And the way you move through your day plays a big role in that. Instead of treating movement like something you “have to do,” choose the kinds of movement that actually make you feel better – physically and mentally. 

Some things could include: 

• Walking outside just to clear your head
• Stretching or doing yoga when you need to reset
• Dancing in your room to a song that changes your mood instantly
• Strength training for energy, confidence, and that “I’ve got this” feeling
• Trying out a new fitness class (bonus if you do it with friends)

The goal isn't to change yourself – it's to take care of yourself in ways that leave you feeling energized, capable, and confident. Movement becomes less about “fixing” and more about expressing. And once you start moving like that, it starts showing up in everything else too – your mood, your routines, and the way you show up for yourself every day. 

Lindsey’s Mentionables Lingerie Pick (Feel Good Energy Set): Lacy Underwire Padded Bralette and Lacy Corset-Back Crotchless Panty in Teal – confident, sensual, and expressive, this little flirty lacy number screams “I’m hot, and I know it”.

Tip #5: Create a Hype-Girl Soundtrack

Every Hot Girl needs a soundtrack. One of Lindsey's favorite confidence hacks is keeping a playlist of songs that instantly shift her mood and energy.

As Lindsey puts it, “Sometimes the quickest way to shift your energy is simply pressing play and singing along.”

Music can become an easy reset button – something you can turn to when you want to switch your mood and step back into your “volume up” energy. 

That Hot Girl vibe can show up in day-to-day moments like: 

• Putting on a hype playlist while getting ready in the morning
• Playing feel-good music while doing chores or cleaning the house
• Turning up favorite songs in the car and fully committing to the car-concert moment 
• Choosing playlists that match the energy you want to bring into your day or night

Lindsey’s Mentionables Lingerie Pick (Main Character Energy Set): Lacy Crossover Bralette and High-Waist Lace-Up Crotchless Panty in Red – bold, confident, and impossible to ignore, this set has the same feel as your favorite hype-girl anthem: a little flirty, a little fearless, and guaranteed to make you stand a little taller. 

Tip #6: Give Yourself Permission to Feel Desirable

This is the real Hot Girl mindset shift: desirability isn’t something you earn, and confidence isn’t something you unlock after changing yourself. It’s something you allow yourself to feel right now. Embracing your inner Hot Girl is really about self-expression without apology, letting yourself feel feminine, confident, playful, or powerful in whatever way feels most like you.

Everyone has a version of themselves they feel most aligned with. The key is creating small rituals that help you step into that feeling more often. 

Some ideas on how to do this could be:

• A go-to outfit or classy lingerie set that instantly shifts your energy
• A signature scent that feels like part of your identity
• A morning or nighttime routine that feels grounding instead of rushed
• A few affirmations that actually feel believable and supportive

These small cues train your brain to associate consistency with confidence – and help you step into that version of yourself more easily over time.

Lindsey’s Mentionables Lingerie Pick (Bold Statement-Making Set): Embroidered Underwire Bustier, Embroidered Strappy Thong Panty, and Embroidered Garter Belt in Violet – bold, expressive, and unapologetic, this is the kind of set that doesn’t ask for permission.

Your Hot Girl Era Starts Now 

At the end of the day, Hot Girl Summer isn't something you "achieve" – it's something you step into. As Lindsey reminds us, the hottest girls aren't trying to impress everyone else; they're focused on becoming the best version of themselves. That starts with the little choices: speaking kinder to yourself, romanticizing your everyday life, and letting yourself feel good without waiting for permission. 

And if there’s one thing we can learn from Lindsey Harper, it’s this: confidence isn’t reserved for some future version of you. It’s something you can practice right now. It shows up in the way you talk to yourself, the way you care for yourself, and the way you choose to celebrate yourself.

So whether that looks like dancing in your kitchen, building small self-care rituals, or slipping into classy lingerie just because it makes you feel amazing, it all counts.

Ready to embrace your inner Hot Girl? Shop Lindsey's curated Mentionables picks and discover classy lingerie that helps you feel confident, playful, and completely yourself.

And for more confidence tips, feel-good habits, and everyday inspiration, be sure to follow Lindsey Harper on Instagram.

Now we want to hear from you: what's one thing that helps you tap into your inner Hot Girl energy? Drop it in the comments – you might just inspire someone else's Hot Girl Summer.