When you go to gift lingerie for her, it can feel a little intimidating – like you’re stepping into a world of lace, straps, and pieces that all look amazing but leave you wondering where to start. 

But here’s the secret: it doesn’t have to be complicated. 

When done right, tasteful lingerie is one of the most fun, thoughtful, and delightfully unexpected gifts you can give. It says, I see you, I adore you, and I want you to feel gorgeous.

And though we’re speaking mostly to the guys here, these tips work just as well if you’re shopping for a friend’s bridal shower or bachelorette party.

Whether you're celebrating a big moment, spicing up date night, or want to surprise her “just because,” this guide can help you choose classy lingerie pieces she’ll love – and maybe want to slip into immediately. 

Let’s make learning how to gift lingerie for her easy, fun, and a whole lot less stressful.

Gift Lingerie Tip #1: Don’t Guess the Size – Check the Label

The cardinal rule of lingerie is simple: it needs to fit well. 

If it’s pinching, pulling, gaping, or slipping off, it’s not just annoying – it can totally tank her confidence. That’s why choosing the correct lingerie size matters. When classy lingerie fits just right, she feels amazing, and her confidence naturally shines. 

But how can you find out her size when you’re trying to gift lingerie as a surprise? 

Don’t worry, we’ve got a few easy tricks to make sure your gift is a win.

Use these simple, discreet tips to figure out her lingerie size and get it right:

• Check Labels: Sneak (respectfully) into her drawer and check the size tags on her underwear or lingerie pieces.
• Spot the Favorites: Notice what lingerie pieces she wears most – those are usually the ones that fit her perfectly.
• Choose Flexible Styles: If you're unsure, opt for bralettes, stretchy lace sets, or styles with flexible fabrics (like lace and mesh). Mentionables’ no-cup-size designs make gifting extra easy.
  

MENTIONABLES PROTIP: Don’t rely on memory – take a quick picture of the lingerie tag so you can double-check sizing without second-guessing.

Gift Lingerie Tip #2: Know Her Vibe, Not Just Her Size

Knowing her proper lingerie size is crucial for gifting lingerie, but just as key is understanding what styles she prefers – because style speaks louder than any tag. 

When the lingerie matches her style, she’ll glow. When it matches only yours… well, it might get worn once and then live in the “special occasion only” section forever.

So, to help you discover her classy lingerie style preferences, pay attention to:

• Her natural inclinations: Does she lean toward cozy and classic lingerie, or is she bold, playful, and a little daring? Or even a bit of both? 
• Her everyday wardrobe and colors: The clothes she wears, the way she carries herself in them, and her favorite hues often give clearer clues than measurements.
• Her overall vibe: This is about understanding her energy, not just the fit of the lingerie. The goal is to choose lingerie pieces that excite her, make her feel sexy yet comfortable, all at once. Consider the fabrics, styles, and small details she enjoys most.

MENTIONABLES PROTIP: If she loves high-waisted panties or soft bralettes, we’d recommend sticking to her tried-and-true lingerie silhouettes. You could also scroll through her social media “likes” or saved Pinterest posts (hint… she’s probably already curating inspiration for you).

Gift Lingerie Tip #3: Match the Occasion – and Her Personality

Once you’ve got a sense of her size and style, it’s time to consider the occasion when you gift lingerie. Not all lingerie is one-size-fits-all – what’s perfect for a birthday might feel off for a bridal shower, and something flirty for date night might not suit her everyday style. 

A little thought goes a long way here.

Think about both the occasion and her personality when choosing a classy lingerie piece for your gift:

• For the romantic: Soft fabrics, pastels, or delicate little lace numbers.
• For the bold and playful: Strappy sets, cutouts, crotchless pieces, or vibrant colors.
• For everyday glam: Comfortable, stylish pieces she’ll actually want to wear, like camis and shorts, soft bralettes and panties, or slips.

MENTIONABLES PROTIP: Even the most thoughtful gift can run into issues if the size or style isn’t quite right. Include a gift receipt or buy from a company with a flexible return/exchange policy (hint: Mentionables makes returns and exchanges suuuuper easy, just saying). This way, she can swap it if needed, keeping the surprise stress-free and fun.

Gift Lingerie Tip #4: Choose Something That’s All About Her

While you might love the idea of seeing her in any kind of lingerie, when you gift lingerie, the focus should be on what makes her feel her best. With thoughtful details and pieces that match her energy, a “meh” gift becomes magical, boosting her self-confidence and making her feel incredible every time she wears the lingerie you chose.

Keep these points in mind to make your gift of lingerie truly about her:

• Think about her rituals: Choose pieces that match how she likes to feel – soft textures for cozy evenings, playful pieces for flirty nights.
• Add an element of surprise: Small, unexpected details (like a hidden strap design or delicate embellishment) make the gift feel extra thoughtful.
• Consider longevity: Pick pieces she’ll actually reach for again and again, not just something flashy she might forget.
• Connect to shared moments: Lingerie that complements experiences both partners can enjoy (such as date nights or versatile layering pieces) makes the gift feel intentional and meaningful.

MENTIONABLES PROTIP: A little surprise is great, but make sure the lingerie pieces still scream ‘her.’ That’s the kind of lingerie she’ll actually reach for!

Gift Lingerie Tip #5: Wrap It With Intention

When you gift lingerie, it’s the little extras that elevate a thoughtful present into a total “wow” moment. Remember: how you present your gift can make all the difference. The right touches can make her smile, get her excited, and show that you really put some thought (and maybe a little mischief) into it. 

Here are some tips to make your lingerie gift score big points:

• Pretty packaging: Ditch the plain bag – think gorgeous box, tissue, or ribbon to build anticipation, because who can resist a beautifully presented gift?  Going to a bridal shower or bachelorette bash? Don’t miss our blog post full of fun and creative ideas for presenting your lingerie gift.
• Flirty notes: A cheeky message or a sweet line about why you picked it adds instant charm.
• Little Luxuries: Silky robes, decadent chocolates, moisturizing lotion, or her favorite scent make the gift feel extra special.
• Surprise Factor: Toss in a playful card or mini bedroom game to spark a laugh (and maybe some naughty fun too).  

MENTIONABLES PROTIP: And if gifting lingerie still feels tricky (whether you’re a guy or a gal), let Mentionables’ Date Night in a Box handle it. It includes a lingerie piece for her, a boxer for him, an exclusive card game, shower steamer, Coconu packets, partner cards, and a limited-edition King and Queen of Hearts box. Trust us, it’s basically everything you need to knock it outta the park without breaking a sweat.

Wrap It Up (Literally and Figuratively)

At the end of the day, when you gift lingerie (whether as a partner or for a bridal shower), it’s not about finding the “perfect” set – it’s about choosing something that makes her feel seen, desired, and confident. 

When you consider her style, comfort, the occasion, and what makes her light up, the gift becomes so much more than lace or satin. It becomes a moment. So trust your instincts, have fun with it, and lean into the flirty, romantic energy that tasteful lingerie brings.

And when you’re ready to spoil your special someone (or bestie) with something silky, or lacy – don’t worry, Mentionables has your back. Our dreamy, no-cup-size-needed, classy lingerie makes choosing the perfect piece feel effortless (and fun).

Before you go, we want to know: What’s your secret strategy for picking a gift that makes her light up?